You are a couple, but at the same time you are also both individuals with your own ideas of life. In your relationship, there should be space for your individual as well as your shared goals.
A systemic approach is especially suited to illuminating and working through problems within the relationship. In the centre of my work lies the joint search for solutions and their implementation. The objective of couples therapy is to learn, to listen to each other, and to express yourself clearly in dialogue with your partner again.
Questions could be:
- What goals do each of you have?
- What goals do you have as a couple, and how do you want to achieve them?
- What do you want to change?
- How can you implement this in your day-to-day life?
I accompany couples in crisis situations and (re)discovery phases.
It is ridiculous
It is impossible
It is what it is
From Erich Fried, ‘It is what it is’, Berlin 1983